I am writing this article for my friends and brethren so that they may understand my view on the ethics of marriage. Although I am not a theologian, as a Christian it is my duty to seek God’s will by reading the Word of God – for How blessed is anyone who (…) delights in the law of Yahweh and murmurs his law day and night (Ps 1, 1-2). Unlike 99% of the theologians who have dealt with the ethics of marriage over the centuries, I am not a celibate. Therefore I am writing not as a theoretician of marriage, but as a man who practises it, and I am writing about issues that are part of my personal life – perhaps even its most important part – and not mere legal-theological speculation that concerns many other people but not myself.
Already about 25% of new marriages in Poland end in civil divorce, and in western countries this figure may even exceed 50%. Only the Catholic Church, as well as some other Christian denominations, are trying to counteract the pro-divorce mentality which is spreading more and more in western culture. However, the Church itself is not consistent in its opposition to divorce, permitting a so-called “declaration of nullity” of a marriage, which in practice takes the place of a divorce and may be issued by an episcopal court for quite petty reasons, even for marriages that lasted many years and produced children. Each year, the episcopal courts in Poland receive about 5,000 applications to nullify a marriage. Over 80% of them result in a declaration of nullity . Pope Francis himself said in an interview  in August 2013 that under canon law, half of all sacramental marriages Continue reading →